When you break up with someone, you can completely destroy your world, your whole life is turned upside down. Over time, you will have to start thinking about going out and socializing again. Socializing when you are single can be very different from socializing when you are in a relationship. For me it was a big concern when I separated from my partner of 7 years, everything had changed since the last time I was single, mainly the fact that all my friends were now in long-term relationships and I had no one to go to. . out with. I’m only thirty years old, but even in those 7 years of being in a relationship, the whole dating game had changed.
Whereas before, when you were in your twenties, after a relationship broke up, your friends just said don’t worry, forget about them and let’s party, you would never be short of things to do and your friends were always out and about. and about. We went out to discos or bars; it would be very easy to meet people.
Things have changed since then, my friends no longer go out as much as we all go out as a couple and they like to do a couple of things (as we all do in that situation), like having a drink at home and eating well and, very occasionally , one night. outside. That’s all lovely when you have a partner and it’s always nice to socialize with your friends, but being single you want the chance to meet other people outside of your immediate circle of friends and that’s pretty difficult if you’re dating partners all the time. .
Even though my profession is very internet related, I never tried dating websites and I really didn’t like it, don’t get me wrong, some of my friends have met their partners on their websites and they swear by it. But for me I like traditional communication in the sense of meeting people face to face, it is more overwhelming for some but I find it much more fun.
So I found myself adjusting quickly to the situation and you end up hanging out with other single people from work or acquaintances that you don’t always think about socializing with, not just because they’re single (well, sometimes) but because they’re on the same level. situation like you and their lifestyle is similar to yours.
I would advise not to turn down any social opportunity, embrace them all, random nights are always the best and you never know where you will end up or who you will meet, the feeling of freedom is incredible. I quickly found out that I loved this new lifestyle, lived alone in the post-breakup moment, and learned a lot about myself in that moment. I had no strings attached or commitments (apart from my cat) and could come and go as I felt like it, it was a very good time in my life and I enjoyed it immensely.
It’s strange what worries you after a breakup, but to me this felt like something very important at the time, how I would manage living alone and going out again and socializing. But these concerns quickly dissipate as you party.
I wrote this article for others in the same situation that I was in, those concerned about going out and socializing and being in the single lifestyle again, it is scary and discouraging. However, I loved it again, it was different from my twenties but in a better way, this time I had more confidence in myself to meet people and I certainly had more money to do things than back then.
About a year later and I met someone I’m very happy with, I met her at a nightclub and we have so much in common that it’s scary. Especially since she is not originally from this country, but traditional dating is still alive and well and fun.
If you find yourself in this situation instead of initially looking at the negatives like me, which is very natural, try to see the positives, there are many, and the sooner you do, the faster you will adopt your new lifestyle after your breaking off. .
Have fun and take care of yourself !!