Have you ever gotten a text message from a girl and wondered “What the hell does that mean?” Or you may have received a text message and wondered if you said something wrong.
If you were talking to her in person, you could read her movements, her tone of voice, and her body language. But in the text you only have their words, so you have to pay attention and decipher them. So as you work on your texting skills and learn what to say to her, spend some time learning to read the meaning of what she responds to.
Here are some common elements of girl texts to help you decipher your conversations.
Exclamation points – This sign of emotion is a good thing and it means that you are generating positive energy with it. If she is so excited in her responses, you are doing something right, keep going!
Question marks – Obviously, if he’s asking you a question, that’s one thing, but question marks appear when there really isn’t a question, for example if he texts you “Will we see you later?” it means that you are not quite sure what is going on or you are confused. You need to lead harder and be clearer.
“What’s the matter?” – This is an opener that really means she wants some attention. It’s not as good a sign as “You should come” or “Let’s go for a walk,” but it does mean that he wants your attention. As long as you’ve stayed out of the friend zone, this is a positive sign.
“Later” – If it’s just a friend (a bad thing), then texting you “Later” is pretty normal. In any other case, it’s a bit casual and tells me that you haven’t built up enough sexual tension in the conversation for her to be really interested in you. Work on it.
“Umm …” – In natural conversation, most people pause and think with “Ummm …” (which I hate). However, when girls text him, it is a very bad sign. Chances are, you’ve crossed the line and proposed something that she just isn’t comfortable with. Step aside, make a joke about it, do something to spread the word and redirect the conversation.
“Seriously?” – This can go either way. If you have just proposed something that excites you, it is positive. On the other hand, he could also be being used sarcastically after you propose something that she doesn’t care about or, worse still, doesn’t dislike. Again, if you’ve gone too far, you can always follow her “really?” with “Of course not. Where’s your sense of humor?” Or something like that.
“Let’s take a walk” – Listen to me, nothing is more romantic for a girl than a quiet walk, hand in hand with a boy they like. It’s engraved on them from childhood, it’s on the shows they watch, and it’s how they bond with the kids. If she asks, GO! No apologies, just get going!
Nicknames – That girls call you nicknames is a show of affection as long as it is something pleasant. Not all girls do, but if you’re texting a girl and she starts calling you by a nickname, it’s a good sign. Unless, of course, you start on them too quickly. In that case, she may be a Class A clinger or a stalker in training.
Now, none of this will apply to every woman or to every text conversation I have with a girl. It’s a good set of guidelines to start developing your ability to interpret girl text messages and a way to increase your awareness of the underlying meaning that women give to their text messages.