How to talk dirty to a guy? Where should I start? What vocal tone should I use? How exactly should it sound coming from me? These are all questions that are on the minds of many women. The truth of the matter is that learning how to talk dirty to a guy is very simple and it doesn’t take years and years of practice, or experience, to get it right. And just to clear up a huge misunderstanding, there is NO “perfect thing to say”. There is no magic phrase or line; everything works together and should flow naturally.
Let me tell you a secret: Men are naturally fascinated by women. So right off the bat, you start off with a huge head start, and you already have our attention. Now, since you are already starting at the top of the “pole of attraction”, let’s say about 100% of the natural attraction points, there are only two directions to move from this point: up or down. It’s impossible to stay 100% over time, in the eyes of that “certain guy” you most want to keep mesmerized. As time goes by, your attraction points will increase from 100% or decrease with an uphill battle to get back to 100% again. So how do you keep your “sexiness degree” from diminishing and possibly never going back to the 100% that initially caught his eye? Strategically use enticing words and language that hold both her interest and attention.
Let’s start with interest. Every man is different and therefore different things turn on different men… different! What is your favorite part of the female body? Ask him! He would love to tell you, believe me. Once he finds out, he can use that information to his advantage. Let’s say he loves breasts. Well, now you could say something like:
- Tonight I want you to take my breasts and rub them as if it were the last time you were going to touch them (you will be surprised how much more passionately he will touch…the girls).
- I want you to suck on them like crazy, until your mouth hurts.
- I want to feel your hot tongue slide up and down my nipples until they’re hard enough to explode.
- I want you to play with my chest until you just can’t take it anymore.
What you are doing here is using their interest to enhance your dirty talk. Because you’re focusing on his “interest” and including breasts –for the sake of this example– in your dirty talk, it turns him on extremely well. This always works. Let’s try another example. Let’s call him a “leg man”. Then call him during the day and say things like:
- I called you because I was sitting here thinking about you kissing my legs tonight.
- I would really love to feel your warm lips kissing the inside of my thighs right now.
- And ohhh, your hands would feel so good rubbing up and down my legs while you kiss them.
- Tonight I will stand up, lean in front of you and I want you to kiss the back of my legs from the ankles to the bottom of my buttocks. I want you to slide your tongue up and down my legs until I beg you to stop.
That would definitely get his attention and turn him on more than you could imagine. But remember, this is mostly effective because you are using his interest as the focus of your dirty talk. It’s not necessarily how you say it, it’s more about “what” are you saying and what “bait” are you using to lure him into your dirty talk.
Now let’s talk about improving your care. By focusing on his interests, you will have him turned on. The second tactic you want to use is “visual communication.” Talking dirty is more than just words. Why stop there when you can combine your body language to enhance the things it says to you? Let’s use the “sine example” again.
- Wear a sexy bra to bed (sheer, lacy, anything partially see-through would work great here) and slowly rub your breast in front of him (while still wearing the bra) and ask “can you give me a hand with this?” Trust me, he would love it.
- Take your hand and place it on your breast and begin to rub your hands around your breast slowly. Ask him. “Do you like the way my breasts feel?”
- Ask him to take off your bra and when he does, grab him by the head and force his mouth on your nipples. Ask him, “Do you like the way my nipples taste daddy?”
What you are doing is using your body language to enhance the dirty things you said to him, and more importantly, you are giving him a “picture” of what you said. This is very powerful and does a lot to keep you on her mind, long after the night is over. By leaving him with an image of you rubbing your breasts in that “sexy bra”, placing his hands on your breasts and forcing him to fondle and lick them, he will always have that memory permanently etched in his mind. This does wonders for keeping his attention and keeping thoughts of you in his head at all times.
In the “leg lover” example, find a pair of sexy thigh-high stockings to wear to bed (hint: something about fishnets always screams “dirty” to a man. Fishnets are one way to sure to turn him on — use at your own discretion). He tries to say something like:
- Do you like my slutty stockings?
- I wore them because I wanted you to treat me like a bad girl tonight.
- I want you to open holes in them while you kiss my legs (that will set it off for sure).
- I want you to grab my thighs. Squeeze my calves, show me how much you want me.