Recently some students asked if they can absorb negativity from the people they are giving energy healing to. There is nothing in the process of providing spiritual healing that requires you to take on their negative energy, but some people have developed a habit of absorbing the things of others. But they don’t just do it when they do healing or give energy work or advice, they do it everywhere: with their families, at a party, in the grocery store, so of course they can also do it when they advise or support others. people. .
Excessive empathy usually begins in infancy, when the child is naturally hypersensitive. Sensing what others are feeling is a natural gift that all babies are born with, but if early life is challenging, it can become a coping mechanism for knowing when to get out of the way, or a way of knowing how to blend in, please. to others. and feel safe. If the child develops a fearful or defensive vibration, the incoming information may be increasingly perceived as frightening.
Since our vibration attracts more than what we are vibrating, there is always a spiral going on. Life gets scarier and worse, or it gets happier and better. It is not reality, it is the creation of each individual. That’s why I don’t listen to psychics or channelers who say scary, apocalyptic things: that’s their reality, not mine. Your “guides” are being heard through the filter of your low vibration. To hear pure Source clearly, your vibration must be high. That means you are happy and doing well in your life.
Being sensitive is a gift, but any gift taken to the extreme becomes a curse, so to speak. All strength taken to the extreme becomes weakness. Your gift of sensitivity to what other people are feeling is meant to be a temporary reading. Take the reading, then release the feeling. Don’t try to carry it for them or assume it for them.
But those who are overly empathetic have an exaggerated sense of responsibility for the feelings and well-being of other people. They do not let others take responsibility for their own vibration and life. It is actually a way of trying to control others or Life.
Feel this if you’re too empathetic: it’s not your job to save, rescue, transport, or even manage others. The “injured healer” sacrifices herself to help others, and ultimately does not serve her, and does not serve her clients as well as it could.
The wounded healer is extremely “old paradigm” and we do not recommend being one. Wounded healers may unconsciously derive satisfaction from their sacrifice, they unconsciously assume that stereotype. There is so much more joy available to you by providing your service without sacrificing your own health and well-being!
If you as a helper are unhappy, searching, broke, tired, overweight, out of shape and unhealthy, your first job is to make yourself and your life work great. You must be contacted before you can effectively help others. Be happy, healthy, light and prosperous and people will naturally want what you have. Live it and show it in your daily life, and they will come to you. They pick up your vibration.
If you want to help others, exemplify what you want them to have.
Signs of too much empathy include:
Weight gain: taking on the weight of the world, or your body trying to protect itself from what you are forcing it to bear.
Fatigue, lack of clarity, confusion, or overwhelmed
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Anger
Sticking to how well your customers are doing
Sadness, feeling like a victim, feeling unloved and that it is unfair that you give so much love
Unhappy life: not taking care of yourself and taking care of your own vibration.
Trying to gain your dignity or redemption by helping others instead of raising your own vibration; You can’t help enough people to make it happen.
Feeling a grandiose need to be important instead of turning inward for some quiet, deeply satisfying value.
The habit of excessive empathy is harmful to everyone involved, but it is easy to stop. We suggest everyone stop empathizing too much, especially if you are going to help people in some professional way.
It’s just a vibratory habit, and you can stop, without processing your childhood, without processing anything, working on yourself, or doing any special ritual. You try it in the here and NOW, where all your power is. Yes, the low vibrations of childhood will rise, but there is no old paradigm “job” involved.
Try mightily to stop empathizing too much and let the Divine do the heavy lifting.
The intention is to keep it very simple, and it is.
The first thing you need to do to stop empathizing too much is to make a solid decision: “I intend to stop taking other people’s energy, feel my OWN feelings, be happy, and mind my own business.” If you still can’t stop, get individual help.
Second, if I’ve picked up a bit of low vibration (I’m human): prostrate (lie on the floor face down with your hands extended above your head in a prayer position) and leave everything at the feet of The Presence. That does it. That’s all you need to do. You don’t need to surround yourself with white light, or do anything to clear it.
If I take on some of the load for a client, or spend some time wondering, “Will they get better?” I remind myself that this is none of my business and that I get in the way when I doubt it, assume it or worry about it. Even though I have a shamanic ability to transmute people’s vibration, I don’t assume the low vibration for them like traditional shamans do.
People who sit in a high and strong resonant field with a powerful teacher have a valuable opportunity to align with it (even from all over the world while listening to audios), which helps them gradually move out of their former lower vibrational range. to a higher one. vibratory range. When they do that, and they BOTH let go, miracles happen. If I, as a teacher, didn’t let go, I’d be on the road. If they still don’t let go, miracles haven’t happened yet.
If they’re the ones that won’t let you go, it’s none of my business.
If I’m the one who doesn’t let go, that’s my responsibility.
If they haven’t come to me and asked for help, like in family or friend situations, it’s none of my business, and I let them go, period. My job is to love and appreciate them, not fix them.
Just like in any other part of life, if it’s too big for you, leave it and give it to The Presence.
Some people need to be healers or helpers in order to feel “important” or special, or to be on a special mission. If this is you, address this immediately as it is the worst reason to be a healer. You need to feel worthy, valued, and complete regardless of what you do. If you need people to make you important or say you’re powerful, you’re on a slippery slope. It never leads to fulfilment.
Someone who needs the help of a teacher or counselor has temporarily forgotten who they are, and the goal is for them to remember that and, as soon as possible, not need the teacher. If you need to be needed, there is an emptiness inside of you, and you find your fulfillment by going to The Presence, not by helping others.
You can say, “Well, I take on their problems or their negativity because I love them, I care, and I have compassion for them.” But it doesn’t help them. Having a view of someone as broken, powerless, weak, and in need of continual fixing makes you a contributor to the problem. Again, it is often your terror and failure to allow the flow and goodness of Life to control you, or try to lead others and run the Universe, which is perfectly orchestrated. Learn how it works and you will love it!
Jesus just didn’t see people as sick or crazy, so they couldn’t be sick or crazy for long in his Presence. Being human, his vibration dropped a few times, hence his crucifixion. He Regained his equanimity on the cross, in dire circumstances! He does not claim to be an example that martyrdom is a good thing, as Christian theology has proposed. His message was love and grace: redemption without paying any price for it.
Some say that they are so sensitive that they cannot get out in the crowd. That’s just a sign that your own vibration is unstable and you can’t control it. You can learn to control it. It is the only thing in the Universe that you can and should control: yourself. Someone who is grounded, balanced and has set clear intentions will not be greatly disturbed by other people’s vibrations.
If you vibrate significantly with another person’s low vibration, it simply means that there is a little buzz of that vibration inside of you that attracted them. It means that you let the external vibrations determine yours, and not the other way around. Otherwise, a low vibration would not resonate with you or stick with you at all. You would happily jump through it.
If you like to use your sensitivity to gather useful information, as I do, whenever you get useful and uplifting information, appreciate it and rave about it, then let it go.
When you sense something negative from someone, say, “That’s not mine, and even though I say ‘yes and thanks for the info,’ you have to move on.” So you train your system to do what you want. Practice everywhere, all the time until your body picks up the new habit. It is easy.
Low vibration information about your customers is not who they really are.
Don’t believe it, don’t get involved in it, don’t dramatize it or get attached to it.