Since the day I broke up with my ex-boyfriend, I wanted nothing more than to contact him. She wanted to talk and listen to his lovely voice. I wanted to talk to him and see if it’s possible to reconcile. A couple of times my ex-boyfriend answered the phone, after a while he stopped answering the phone. What feels worse than being abandoned is the feeling of being ignored! I was feeling depressed and it was only aggravating my pain.
I finally got over the urge to call him. So I’m sharing some practical ways you can also use to resist the urge to contact your ex.
1. Ask yourself why you NEED to call him
What is the motivation for you to contact your ex? For me, I found that when I’m bored or not busy, I just feel like calling him. For you, it could be some other reason. So every time you pick up the phone to call him, ask yourself why. Then take a few minutes to reason in your mind about those reasons.
What are you going to talk about? Will talking to him make me feel better?
2. Call someone else instead!
If you really feel like calling, call someone other than your ex. It may be a friend or family member who you can trust and will listen to what you have to say.
3. Stay busy
When your mind is not busy you tend to think about your ex-boyfriend and this in turn will make you want to call him. So, do something to distract yourself when you have that initial thought about your ex. Go out with your friends, try a new hobby, or learn something new. So it’s best to keep busy.
4. Get rid of things that remind you of your ex
Photos and gifts are the most common culprits. If you have these items in plain sight, box them up and store them somewhere you can’t reach them, when you feel most vulnerable. I gave it to one of my good friends to keep. I also told him, don’t give me even if I come begging him!
5. Avoid places where your ex hangs out.
It’s going to be hard to forget your ex and not contact him when you’re constantly running into him. I have to admit, I even took different bus routes just so I could see him on my run in the morning. Looking back now, it all seems so pathetic! At the time, it wasn’t doing me any good because when I watch the run in the morning, I end up thinking about it all day. This in turn would make me want to call him, even more!