The worst part about trying to fix a breakup is that the ball always starts in the other person’s court. Your ex dumped you, and she’s the one holding all the cards. Getting your ex girlfriend back is about overcoming that initial disadvantage and taking back the power.
Until you do that, your ex won’t want much to do with you as a potential boyfriend. The following guide will show you the best ways to get an ex girlfriend back… without playing mind games or using tricky techniques.
You can’t reverse any breakup until you understand one thing: You must first make your ex want you back. Until she misses you and needs you again, nothing you can say or do will change her.
You could send all the cards, letters and flowers in the world, none of it will mean anything. So, one of the first things you should do? He takes three steps back, disappearing from her sight for a while, leaving enough space for the break to finish resolving.
Did I just say that you should sit back and let your breakup happen? You can bet I did. And do you know why? Because your relationship ended the moment your ex decided to break up with you.
Since then, you’ve probably been fighting the breakup, and your ex, the whole time.
How has it worked for you so far? Not so good? Thought so. Which is why you can’t keep raging against the end of your relationship. Instead of swaying with the wind, the best thing you can do is let your ex know that you not only accept the breakup, but even embrace it. Walk away knowing that it’s over and take comfort in yourself knowing that with a little time and patience, you will get your ex back.
Fixing a breakup is actually quite easy…staying together afterward is a bit difficult. Getting back together with someone you love doesn’t make much sense if you do it the wrong way… only to end up breaking up again. Before you begin, you need to understand the three main concepts of getting his girlfriend back and the 4-step process of getting her to want you back. They are easy to understand, but not always so easy to follow:
Let your ex girlfriend experience life without you
This director is the first, and it’s also the one where most of the guys get lost. Refusing all contact with your ex is the only way to make him see what life will be like without you. This requires you to turn off your cell phone, stop texting, and don’t even reply to your ex’s emails. Any type of contact with ex-girlfriends is prohibited. By cutting you out of her life, she gets a great taste of being all alone. This is what you want.
Give your girlfriend alone time
Another big mistake most guys make: They think they’ll be able to fix their breakup pretty quickly. Your ex needs time for herself and you should give it to her. This allows her to reflect on what the two of you had and whether or not she really wants to risk losing it. She already gave you her space, but by giving her time as well, you’re letting the end of the relationship really sink in. Not seeing you she will make your ex miss you. Over time, she’ll start to worry about what you’re doing (and who you’re doing it with).
Let her know that she’s willing to lose you completely
Until now, your ex has missed talking to you, maybe seeing you, and definitely at least hearing from you in some way. Now is the time to let him know that he will lose you forever if he doesn’t step up and do something about it. You see, your ex was hoping to break up with you and slowly let go of your relationship. She thought you would be where you always were, in plain sight. Seeing you still hanging around is what gives your ex the peace of mind to go through with the breakup. But once she loses you all at once? Once she realizes you won’t talk to her, write to her or be around her at all? Your ex goes from full contact to nothing at once. The pain associated with the suddenness of the situation is what will frighten her and make her reconsider her decision to end her relationship.
Getting back together with your ex girlfriend is about showing her that you’re serious. She needs to realize that she can’t just have a part of you. It’s all or nothing, and showing her what she stands to lose is one of the most important aspects of making up with your ex. By forcing her to take a hard look at things, her ex may see things very differently than she would if she could break up with you slowly, piece by piece, over time. Don’t allow her that kind of breakup comfort, because when did she leave you? They didn’t give you that kind of comfort at all.
All of the above concepts, when followed correctly, will make your ex question your breakup. In fact, you can speed up this process by going out and having fun without her. Imagine your ex-girlfriend already in shock now that she sees you laughing, smiling and having a good time alone. Not only will she worry that you’re moving on without her, but she’ll also wonder if you needed her that much in the first place. Instead of reveling in the security and comfort of knowing that you love her and want her back, she will begin to realize that she may have misjudged the entire relationship. Watch the pendulum move in your direction… the ball is in your court now. This is a big part of making your ex love you back.
And do you know what the biggest part of the whole process is? You have taken control of the situation without having to play any mind games. You didn’t cheat on your ex, make anything up about her, or try to make her jealous by hooking up with other girls. You were honest with yourself and with her. This is huge, because when you get back together with your girlfriend, she will feel like her decision was entirely hers. This will keep the two of you together much longer than if you had tricked her back using some sort of mind game or technique.