Disciplining a child is difficult. Many ways have been suggested. One way to discipline our children is through the carrot and stick method. The “carrots” are privileges that must be earned or incentives that will motivate them to complete their task. These rewards are like watching TV, playing a computer game, or going out to play with your friends.
The “sticks” instead, are punishments or disciplinary actions for work not done or when a child disobeys his parents. This punishment does not mean spanking the child. It can be done in different ways, for example, a time out, punishment, or removal of a privilege like watching television.
A time out works well with older children. A two-year-old will not be able to understand the meaning of a time out. If she has to give one as a punishment, she must do it right away or her son will be confused. A general rule of thumb is one minute for each year of the child’s age. Sometimes a hug and a comforting word after time out also help a child know that punishing isn’t about you not wanting it, it’s about your behavior.
While it is clear which behaviors will be punished, parents should also keep in mind that rewarding good behaviors is also important. The positive effect that praise can have should not be underestimated. For example, saying that you are proud of your child for completing chores is often more effective than punishing the child for the opposite behavior: not doing chores. Parents must be specific when giving their praise; don’t just say, “Good job.” Discipline is not just about punishing, but also about recognizing good behavior.