From my experience as a dating coach, I can tell you that most men will never have the woman they want in their lives for one main reason.
That reason is approach anxiety: the fear of approaching a girl and starting a conversation.
When you suffer from approach anxiety, your options are severely limited. Even now, you probably see beautiful women around you all the time. But unless you can walk up to them and start talking, looking is about as far as you can go.
Destroy that fear though, and you can keep approaching and meeting attractive girls until your life is full of them.
So if you’re content to settle for whatever woman life throws your way, stop reading. now: you can keep your approach anxiety. But if you’re ready to make a change and get the women you want and deserve, the ones you never imagined you could have, read on.
Day 1 – Schedule
Congratulations! If you are still reading this article, you have already taken a big step towards a new life. If it’s early in the day then today it’s your Day 1. If it’s late, tomorrow is your Day 1.
Your tasks for Day 1 are very simple. Make sure you feel as comfortable as possible with your appearance. She’ll be talking to strangers tomorrow, so it’s important for her to look and feel her best.
If you feel uncomfortable with something, make quick adjustments. Shave, wash your lucky socks, get a good night’s sleep. Don’t stress too much: you don’t have to be perfect, just comfortable!
Days 2-5 – Humble Beginnings
Your mission for these first 4 days is very simple.
All you have to do is walk up to a stranger (preferably, but not necessarily, an attractive girl) and ask them something. Then walk away; no need to have a long conversation.
Approach 15 strangers a day. It only counts if the other person stops and you get an answer to your question!
You can ask for anything: directions, advice, even an opinion on your outfit. Really do not care. Once you’ve walked up to 60 people, you’re well on your way to destroying approach anxiety.
Days 6-9 – Completed
Well, it’s day 6! You’re probably already bored of walking around and asking for directions. That’s good, because things are about to get a lot more interesting.
During these 4 days, you have to congratulate 15 new girls every day. That means going out to the mall or a pedestrian street and paying an honest compliment to the cute and interesting girls.
If this scares you, don’t worry: just give a compliment and walk away. Your task is to give 15 compliments a day: no more, no less. After doing this for a couple of days, you will feel much more confident!
Days 10-14 – Completed+
Once you’re comfortable giving compliments and walking away, it’s time for your last mission. You will be doing exactly the same thing that you have been doing for the last 4 days: giving compliments.
There is only one difference: now, after giving a compliment, transition to a normal conversation. It is important that you make the transition! Don’t wait for the girl to start talking to you after the compliment.
Here are some examples of how you can make the transition:
Example 1: “Wow, you’re really cute! I just had to walk up to you and say something. What are you buying?”
Example 2: “I really like your scarf! I just had to go up and tell you. Talk to me for a couple of minutes, girl-in-a-cool-scarf!”
It doesn’t really matter what you say. Just turn the compliments into conversations the best you can. Do this at least 10 times a day.
days 15+
If you made it to day 15, you will have made over 150 approaches! You now have all the tools you need to approach women and start conversations. Keep it up and your life will be full of fantastic women.