The outstanding German thinker and philosopher of the last century, Nietchze, is the source of my knowledge of this wise observation that “marriage is a long conversation.” While Nietchze generally gets a bad rap for his “superman theories” and “God is dead” dictum, this seems like the BEST philosophical observation of his on that great human institution: MARRIAGE.
Over the past seven years on our Bi Men Network, many of our men have repeatedly admitted that they STILL HAVE GREAT TALKS with their wives. When push comes to shove, many men acknowledge that his wives are, in fact, his best friends. While women seem to make “best friends” much more easily than most adult men, finding a “best friend” is all too often a major problem for many adult men.
As we all KNOW by now, romance fades and sex fades. Youth fades. Outer beauty fades. The energy fades. Getting old is not for sissies as Bette Davis once astutely pointed out!
Do you still talk to your wife? Or are they like so many older couples who sit at the dining room table in SILENCE or with the TV or radio on or both reading their sections of the newspaper? How many couples do we see going out to eat in public in COMPLETE SILENCE. And NOT the comfortable silence of two old friends who are so peacefully at peace.
Well, if you STILL ENJOY a good conversation with your spouse, SHE IS A GUARDIAN, and definitely with your best friend, or one of your three best friends. It has been said that after 30 we should only have THREE GOOD FRIENDS. Running in a pack is for nuns and for young people.
IF you are still enjoying GOOD TALKS – GOOD TALKS – with your partner, you are really very, very lucky.
I often guess that one of the reasons MEN really enjoy GOLF as they get older is that it’s a good cover to FINALLY converse, really solid TALK, with other men while riding or walking around so many golf holes! WHILE walking together or riding in a golf cart, you can talk without meeting each other’s eyes. It’s ALSO a good reason why chatting liquid lube bar stools are a conversational asset. Not having to look directly into another person’s eyes! And those amazing CONVERSATIONS on planes and trains with strangers we never see again. EYES not in direct contact with our chat partner! IF you ever find that you need to have a heart-to-heart with your spouse and you’re not good at direct eye contact, consider a long, private “Sunday” trip to the countryside where you can communicate quietly and intimately with each other.
So if you’ve had a RECORD of GOOD TALKS with your spouse, do it again. OFTEN: It’s nice to take that nice long Sunday drive for the hell of it, even bring a picnic for extra fun. BUT even spontaneous SUNDAY DRIVE is good. You can relax and chat with your FOUR EYES on the road ahead and just have a nice TALK with your partner! Give it a try, after all, you owe your best friend a lot, right? OKAY!
A big hug and best wishes,
Stewart (Mac) McCloud
Founder and President
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