You are friendly and get along with everyone. But when it comes to your boyfriend’s mom, your charisma has no effect. What could be wrong with you? Whatever it is, you should be thankful for her existence, she is the reason you were able to meet an amazing guy.
So why does he despise you? Well, that’s what you’re here for… to find the answer to your question. It’s about time you figured out how to bridge the gap between you and your “maybe” future mother-in-law.
He is afraid of losing his son.
It’s natural for a mother to be afraid of losing her child to a girl she doesn’t fully know. In short, she still doesn’t trust you. If she sees that her relationship with her son is getting serious and she could end up in marriage, the tendency is for her to freak out. She has not prepared for a life without her offspring. She will consider you a threat to her happiness.
So this is what you have to do, spend some time with her. Make an effort for both of you to get to know each other. Your boyfriend’s mother needs to know that she can depend on you to take care of her most precious child.
She only wants the best.
Put yourself in his place, would you stop loving your son? As a mother, you want to make sure that your son only gets the best girlfriend. This will make treating her a bit harsh on you. But don’t worry, she may be hostile towards you for now, but that will change if she can show you that it’s good for her son. Don’t take her actions personally, this is normal behavior for a mom. Some are too good to hide their feelings from her. Stay positive that your relationship would be better. Just reassure her, show her how great of a person you are.
She longs to be a part of your life.
When a person falls in love, they tend to focus their attention on the person they adore. When the mother realizes this, she begins to feel that she will soon be removed from her child’s life. It is simply an act of jealousy. Her words or harsh actions towards you are just her defense mechanism. When this happens, she must reassure him that even if she is in a relationship with her son, she will still be a part of his life and hers. Make him feel that you are happy to have a second mom.
Moms are pretty emotional, do her a favor and be the first to understand. Don’t be unreasonable and let him choose between you and his mother. In the worst case, let your partner do the talking. Stay strong girl.