In this article, I answer a student EFT monitoring question. And that is, how should one have proceeded with my client for his fear of flying with the Tell The Story technique, since he could not feel anything above 0?
Well, every once in a while, you will find someone who cannot imagine himself in the situation. There are several ways to fix it.
The first thing I would try is to bring out those feelings in a way normally reserved for testing. Normally she wouldn’t advocate going to the trial portion of the session without first releasing the trauma, but in this case, she doesn’t feel it. So I would ask you to tell the story of the flight throughout the tour, while taking notes on each part. Watch body language and voice for any emotions. If there is a part where you seemed more emotional than flat, mark it in your notes. When he’s finished telling the story, ask him to close his eyes. With your eyes closed, read the story to him in great detail, really going into detail in the most intense part, asking him to observe, for example, the smell of food or drink on the plane, how the seat feels, if he is wearing a seat belt. safety or not, what movie he was watching or what he was watching, the voice of the pilot when he announced a danger; in other words, sight, hearing, and feeling. Then ask him while he’s reliving that, where 10 is scared and 0 is calm, what number is he feeling. If there is anything above zero, even if it is a 2 or a 1, you can ask her to open her eyes (so you can see it by tapping), and then you can tap down to 0. If her body language or voice does not give an indication which part was worst for her, ask her which part was worst and then pass it on as above.
If the above produces total calm from the start (the client’s presentation without feelings), then you can use a cognition validity statement. For example, you might ask how true the following statement feels, where 10 is totally true and 0 is false: “Flying is always dangerous.” Take your time to first explain that you know that, logically, she knows that flying is not dangerous, but you want to hear what that emotional voice in the back of her head is saying, not her logical head. Chances are you will find that emotional voice and give it a number greater than zero. You can then go through the story as above, only this time, go through each part of the story and click each part twice before continuing, without numbers. When you’re done, ask her again how true the above statement is, and it’s likely narrowed it down a bit.
Detective work may be necessary for the actual problem. It may be that he is barking up the wrong tree. You may not be able to connect with the sensation of flying, but you can connect with, for example, the fear of death, claustrophobia, or anything else that makes you generally anxious but has nothing to do with flying. Fear of death could be related to an incomplete grief of a loved one, claustrophobia could be related to a time when she was accidentally locked in a closet, just to give two of many examples of each. Instead, you can tap. This also has the advantage of helping you understand how a session can be developed, so that you can delve deeper into your feelings about the flights later.
I hope this helps.